Thank you Adi. Love the focus on Kindness. Kindness brings joy and keeps me in the right mindset to achieve more. I look forward to more insightful learnings.
Thank you for sharing, Adi! I like the simplicity of it and clear implications. I think everyone can define dimensions for themselves but more I think about it more I come to a conclusion that happinness is a function of living intentional life in close connections with people that matter in your life. Looking forward to new frameworks.
Wonderful framework this . Much of the stress that is caused in our life is by saddling ourselves with expectations , many a time influenced by perceived external benchmarks of success ( bigger title , bigger house etc). Completely agree on the point of Altruism and kindness , something we all possess in abundance and yet most refrain from sharing . I think this finds inherent roots in the eternal debate on journey vs. destination . Do we over obsess about the destination (achievement) and fail to enjoy the journey . If one can discover joy in the journey , then can one achieve a happiness set point that is constant and any thing one manages to achieve during it becomes just a bonus ? The above approach can be incongruous to existing dogmas of the corporate world , however can find application in personal life for sure.
1 dimension I would add to this is on Expectations. Where the expectations come from can make a big difference as it can be a motivator or a big source of pressure!
Internally derived Expectations can be motivating.
Externally projected Expectations i.e what others expect of you (family, relatives, friends, society etc) can lead to a lot of pressure as they may or may not align with your capability, own expectations which have an impact on the achievement.
My framework around this is;
If expectation coming from self, announce it to the world & work towards it
If expectation coming from society, family, other external environment - shut it out / cancel it. Focus on your expectation and align it with the external world if it helps.
Simple example;
- @Home; A child that dreams of playing pro level sport with high level expectation (self-motivated) will have higher achievement vs parents expectation of child playing at higher levels which will cause tremendous pressure and eventual burn-out.
- @ Work; Enabling your team to build their own targets or plans or working on ideas coming from them (their expectation) vs a top down version of your (line manager) expectations leads to lower level of achievement at worse case or at best case high achievement but with low satisfaction.
One way to achieve internal happiness could be: always be grateful for what you have, you will see alot of people who dont have what you do and are taking those for granted. And be empathetic before judging.
Hey Adi, I thought it was only those Great Photography Skills, this is just awesome. Looking forward for more of such posts from you. Happiness is just not A State Of Mind after all.
Thank you Adi. Love the focus on Kindness. Kindness brings joy and keeps me in the right mindset to achieve more. I look forward to more insightful learnings.
Joined the framework post at the right time. Thanks a lot for giving back.
Thank you for sharing, Adi! I like the simplicity of it and clear implications. I think everyone can define dimensions for themselves but more I think about it more I come to a conclusion that happinness is a function of living intentional life in close connections with people that matter in your life. Looking forward to new frameworks.
Simple, smart and amazing!! Thanks for sharing
Adi, thank you. I have recently come across a great
resource centre on kindness. Link for anyone who wants to follow: https://www.sussex.ac.uk/research/centres/kindness/research/kind_wellbeing
Thank you Adi, please keep on writing
Very insightful....thanks for sharing
Nice 👍
Very inspiring! :)
Insightful!
As I have heard a lot of people asking "When is the right time to retire?" and the way you framed it has actually given a fine outlook to it.
Thank you for sharing your ideation and experience in this format, will be waiting for more posts.
Wonderful framework this . Much of the stress that is caused in our life is by saddling ourselves with expectations , many a time influenced by perceived external benchmarks of success ( bigger title , bigger house etc). Completely agree on the point of Altruism and kindness , something we all possess in abundance and yet most refrain from sharing . I think this finds inherent roots in the eternal debate on journey vs. destination . Do we over obsess about the destination (achievement) and fail to enjoy the journey . If one can discover joy in the journey , then can one achieve a happiness set point that is constant and any thing one manages to achieve during it becomes just a bonus ? The above approach can be incongruous to existing dogmas of the corporate world , however can find application in personal life for sure.
Great framework designed and written in a very simplistic manner...very powerful and relevant.. Thank you Adi sir
Totally agree Adi.
1 dimension I would add to this is on Expectations. Where the expectations come from can make a big difference as it can be a motivator or a big source of pressure!
Internally derived Expectations can be motivating.
Externally projected Expectations i.e what others expect of you (family, relatives, friends, society etc) can lead to a lot of pressure as they may or may not align with your capability, own expectations which have an impact on the achievement.
My framework around this is;
If expectation coming from self, announce it to the world & work towards it
If expectation coming from society, family, other external environment - shut it out / cancel it. Focus on your expectation and align it with the external world if it helps.
Simple example;
- @Home; A child that dreams of playing pro level sport with high level expectation (self-motivated) will have higher achievement vs parents expectation of child playing at higher levels which will cause tremendous pressure and eventual burn-out.
- @ Work; Enabling your team to build their own targets or plans or working on ideas coming from them (their expectation) vs a top down version of your (line manager) expectations leads to lower level of achievement at worse case or at best case high achievement but with low satisfaction.
What do you think?
One way to achieve internal happiness could be: always be grateful for what you have, you will see alot of people who dont have what you do and are taking those for granted. And be empathetic before judging.
Hey Adi, I thought it was only those Great Photography Skills, this is just awesome. Looking forward for more of such posts from you. Happiness is just not A State Of Mind after all.
The quadrant JOY reminds me the Gita - "do your duty without expecting the returns'.
Your article is thought provoking.